Why Honest Conversations?

I recently caught up with Joanna Penn http:/www.creativepenn.com to talk about our goals for the year and was greatly inspired by her enthusiasm, energy and commitment to the things she loves.

She got me thinking about what’s important to me and I’ve come to the conclusion that I always, always want to have honest conversations with people no matter what area of my life. And I want to encourage other people to do the same.

So why honest conversations? I believe it’s important for all of us to be true to ourselves and if we’re to be true to ourselves we need to be true and honest with those around us.

I’ve learnt over the years that rather than biting my tongue and smiling, nodding and agreeing with every thing someone says leaves me with a feeling of dissatisaction, feeling almost false and a little disturbed.

So rather than doing this in the fear that I would be judged, someone wouldn’t like me or it would affect me adversely in someway if I didn’t agree with people, I threw caution to the wind and hey, presto! Leonie got herself a voice!

It was an enlightening experience and from the day I decided to change the way I was, life has gone up dramatically in the satisfaction stakes!

Being honest with ourselves means we can focus on being ourselves. We can focus on what matters most to us in our lives.

I was reading the Your Body magazine last night and the article asked what matters most in your life? I thought about this and realise that family, friends, a community, good health, doing the things I love because I love them, not because I have to and helping others are the things that matter most to me. And at the top of my list? Having honest conversations, with myself, my partner, my kids, my family, my friends and my colleagues in the workplace.

And what could be a better thing to want to ensure I have positive feelings about myself. Honest conversations mean I can get what I want without upsetting others and others know where they stand and can have a stimulating conversation with me knowing that I will be honest about what I think, but tactful at the same time.

So what matters most to you in your life? Are you taking steps that will bring you closer to these things? I maybe haven’t been and plan to focus on getting closer to the things that matter to me in all the decisions I make and the conversations I have in the future.

We need to design a life that feels successful to us and I’ll be heading that way by writing, expressing myself honestly but yet with tact and focussing on my goals for a better more satisfying life. After all, life is meant to be enjoyed. Let’s take positive steps to get there. One step at a time.

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